Off Beat..

Hey readers,

We have been living in a humdrum, thinking in the same way.. living in the same shadows of our parents. A dialogue of one of the lead characters of Bangalore Days movie envelopes the entire life phases of an ordinary indian which if translated would be somewhat like this- "Being obedient kid, getting good- decent grades, getting bachelor's and master's degrees, getting into a good paying job, settling down- mostly in arranged way, starting a family.. and the entire thing starts in phase 2 with your kids..Yeah there are changes in technology, eating -clothing pattern but the main plot of almost 90% Indians is the same. There is no off beat.

If one of cousin/friend gets into a new job, the first question is about how much is the salary package, including us. Very few of us asks are you happy with the job, or is it what you desire or will the work be still desirable if the salary is taken out of the equation. And what even more astonishing is that Very rare answers are yes. I'd be a hypocrite if I say I don't belong to the majority section here. It's the same story with all of us. But I'm ready to change it.

Yes money is important.. very important in the present highly competitive world. But it can't be everything. I refuse to agree it to be the sole reason to go for a job or create a career. The people who say that we go for an uninspiring careers and earn money to do things later which we enjoy- there hardly comes such time coz our jobs are very demanding nowadays and to do any extra thing takes a lot of toll on the body and mind.

Recently I tuned in to one of the conversations of my Colleagues debating how young budding generation is addicted to the games on mobile or entertaining app available. The kids are using too much mobile instead of playing outside but the others said why take away something that the kids like and how interfering from the beginning escalates then in future to career based decisions like what we would like them to pursue or rather quite bluntly saying where the money is currently. Yes parents have right to decide what value to give to the kids. Playing excessively on mobile is not advisable but to ban using the mobile for controlling the sole reason is too farfetched. Using mobile also introduce them to the technology which plays good role is today's advanced world. Every person and kid is different, so are their likings. Let them do what their heart calls for rather than putting your dreams for them on their innocent shoulders. Even if there is a financial crunch let them know that, involve them in the situation- there is no shame in that. You'd rather be shaping their character and making them independent to pursue their dream on their own. If they are really into it and wish to pursue it they will get a scholarship or get an internship which may help them into their careers.

I think we can bring the change if you just try.. but the courage to try something for the first time is the only place you are on your own.. it's something you are willing to do for your kids,nephew,niece or coming generation without fearing the society or their same old customs. That courage is all a kid asks from their family to defy the society if there ever comes a situation to choose. I'd like to quote one of my favorite movie line- “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery, and I promise you something great will come of it.”

Off beat once in a while and where it is necessary is good. Let them shape their own future.. set them free .. for once let them breathe..

Until next time ..

Have a quirky wicked time readers !